Six Ways to Better Connect with Individuals with Memory Loss
Imagine you are sitting in a comfortable chair in a noisy room with family around you. Your hands in your lap reveal the signs of a lifetime of triumphs, and while you feel safe, an overwhelming sense of confusion burdens your mind.
The family is talking with you about something that happened a long time ago, and although you should be able to remember, you cannot. Feelings of shame and embarrassment cause you to withdraw from the conversation. You can’t help but feel like you’ve disappointed those around you.
More than 6.2 million Americans live with Alzheimer’s, and being sensitive to the experiences of individuals with memory loss can strengthen connections with loved ones.
While reminiscing with older relatives can deepen connections, individuals with Alzheimer’s disease and related dementias may have difficulty remembering. Here are six ways to connect better with older individuals who may be experiencing memory loss.
- Be Present.
Pay attention to non-verbal cues, trains of thought, and long conversations when spending time together. Do they seem withdrawn or engaged?
- Be an Advocate.
Accept the friend or loved one in their present state and encourage others to focus on the things that an older relative or friend can do.
- Show Family Photos.
Presenting photos can stimulate memories and connection. Be mindful of any confusion or distress that may arise if they can't recognize people in the photos.
- Know What Brings Them Joy.
Learn their favorite foods and activities and incorporate them into visits. What types of things excite them?
- Be Patient.
Watching a loved one age can be emotional. Prepare to slow down and create a calm supportive environment.
- Stay In Touch.
Even for those with hearing difficulties, a call to say “hello” or “I love you” is a meaningful way to connect.
The DES partners with Area Agencies on Aging (AAA) to coordinate supportive in-home and community-based services such as transportation, nutrition programs, medicare counseling, legal assistance and family caregiver support. To check eligibility, visit the Older Adults DES web page.